The Approach
The full methodology behind debugging your communication — from first principles to practical application.
Crack the code to human interaction.
You're in a meeting, giving lots of detail to help people see your vision. Instead of the enthusiasm you were expecting, you watch everyone else's eyes glaze over.
Or you're at a conference, coffee in hand, scanning the room. Everyone else seems to be connecting effortlessly. You're calculating the least awkward time to leave.
Or you're pitching your company — the thing you built from scratch — and you can see the investor's attention drifting. You know the technology is solid. You know the market is there. But somehow the story isn't landing, and you can't figure out why.
You know these are solvable problems. You just wish you knew how to solve them. You're constantly wondering why:
- • Products are easy to build and hard to sell
- • Details and data don't generate buy-in
- • Work relationships are filled with friction
- • Attending network events feels like torture
- • Sharing your ideas isn't having the impact you want
- • People overlook your contributions
- • Leadership skills seem so extroverted
You've read books. Watched TED talks. Maybe sat through a corporate training full of hypotheticals that don't match your actual job.
None of it stuck — because none of it matched how your brain works.
What you want is a technical manual for human conversation. A debugger for communication. A way to approach these situations with the same systematic confidence you bring to technical problems.
If this hits home, you've come to the right place.
No, it's not a personality problem.
You aren't too logical. You don't lack empathy. You're not too introverted. What you're missing is a learnable skill.
That's the gap. Not some personal defect. You can build your communication skills the same way you built your software skills.
You learned to code. You learned system design. You learned to debug problems by tracing them to root causes.
But communication? Was that supposed to just... happen? By osmosis? That seems to have worked for everyone else. They somehow seemed to have intuited unwritten rules nobody explained to you.
You watch people navigate politics, build relationships, sell their ideas, close deals, and grow their businesses in a way that seems effortless. How do they do it? How can you do it?
You've quietly wondered: what's the secret to communication that they know and I don't?
Yes, you can reverse engineer success.
Miscommunications are bugs in a human system. Just like you find and fix bugs in your code, you can learn to analyze, understand, and systematically improve your interactions with others.
When a conversation goes wrong, there's a reason — and it's not because you're defective. It's that you haven't built the right mental model yet. But you can. And it might be easier than you think.
Debugging Human Communication is a complete program that applies the structure of scientific discovery through the scientific method to help you crack the code to human communication.
Form a hypothesis, test an approach, and iterate based on what you learn. Get better over time — not through abstract theory, but through real practice, in the real world, with real feedback.
Your technical manual for human interaction
Discover the difference of experiment-driven coaching.
Decode Hidden Systems
Communication has patterns, principles, structures — but nobody taught you what they are. You've been trying to navigate without a map.
Once you understand how the system of human communication actually works, things start to click into place. You'll understand what's stayed mysterious to you — why some land and others don't, what's really happening when someone gets defensive, how influence actually builds.
"Andrea understands communication the way I understand code: there are patterns, rules, structure. She sees what I can't see on my own, and helps me build a mental model for whatever I'm facing. What felt chaotic suddenly has structure. Before tactics, she helps me understand myself: what I value, where I stand. Then she gives me a concrete experiment, and the fast feedback loop helps me learn quickly."
Leverage Experimentation
Understanding isn't enough. You also need an approach you can actually execute.
Instead of forcing yourself into someone else's system, we design experiments around what you're already doing. The goal: find the smallest tweak that creates disproportionate results.
"Andrea's coaching is effective because she helps me spot assumptions I didn't even know I had. She helps me design communication experiments that feel way too easy to have such a big impact."
Get Expert Advice
You won't get handed a one-size-fits-all playbook. Instead, you'll work with a guide who understands the nuance of human systems and can help you design experiments to discover what actually works for you.
Think of it as co-creation: I bring the structure, accountability, and deep expertise — you bring your context and curiosity. Together, we'll navigate the complexity and arrive at solutions that fit your life.
"In my Discovery Session, Andrea immediately spotted a tiny detail in how I could frame my message and sent me peer-reviewed papers to back up her claims. When I tried the experiment, I easily persuaded my stakeholders to hire more people for my team — in a hiring freeze!"
Learn in Community
You've probably felt it — the loneliness of being the person who communicates differently. The code-switching. The holding back. The quiet embarrassment of not navigating social situations the way your colleagues seem to.
In this community, you can be yourself. You can share in long detailed responses. You can dive into the detail and be direct. You can nerd out with other people who care about software quality without having to translate your words into business-friendly language.
And you'll discover you're not alone. Others are working through the same challenges — and they're eager to share what's working. Members swap experiments like recipes, excited to let each other in on what they've found.
"Attending my company's annual conference sounded like hell on earth for my introverted self. Instead, it was one of the most rewarding experiences of the last few months and probably a peak of my entire life in communication. Now that I've rested, all I feel is the joy and energy of connection — a weird sensation for an introvert!"
How Small Shifts Create Big Changes
An experiment-driven approach to communication —
designed for how technical professionals actually work.
You don't need to overhaul your personality. You need a systematic way to find what's not working and fix it. My eight-step, experiment-driven coaching framework turns real conversations into a lab where you can test, observe, and iterate.
Find a Friction Point
Choose one specific challenge. Not "get better at communication" — something concrete, like "my co-worker keeps interrupting me."
Gather Context
What conditions shape this interaction? Environment, history, power dynamics, motivation, and more. The nuance matters.
Identify Variables
Name the factors you can actually influence with tactical precision. Your word choice, your mindset, your habits, your timing are just a few of many opportunities to explore.
Define Success
What does "better" look like, specifically? Not "they get it" — something you can observe like "they ask followup questions."
Form a Hypothesis
Predict what a small shift might change. "If I lead with the business impact, then they'll engage with the technical details."
Make It Measurable
Decide how you'll know if it worked. What will you watch for? What will you write down after?
Run the Experiment
Every tiny interaction is data to test your hypothesis. When things don't go as planned, it's not a failure. It's an unexpected result that helps you learn and spot patterns.
Follow What Works
Keep what's effective. Turn surprises into new experiments. Repeat.
This isn't theory. It's a practice. Better communication emerges naturally and compounds over time.
Effort Won't Fix Communication.
Leverage Will.
"Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world."
Most people focus on the lever — working harder, pushing through, saying more. But Archimedes knew the real power is in the fulcrum: where you place it.
That's what we do together. We find your tipping point — the place in your habits, timing, mindset, or messaging where a small adjustment creates outsized results.
Most clients come wrestling with one of these four patterns:
Conversation Flow
You know what you want to say, but it comes out wrong. You rehearse for days, then freeze in the moment. You replay conversations wondering what you should have said differently.
Stock your toolkit with curious questions: 'Help me understand...' 'What's driving that?' 'What would change your mind?' Use them when words fail you.
Stakeholder Buy-In
You have good ideas, but you can't get traction. Whether it's a boardroom, an investor meeting, or an internal proposal — you're told you're "too in the weeds" but nobody explains what the right altitude looks like. The people who should be your biggest advocates aren't buying what you're selling.
Before your next pitch, proposal, or board update, ask yourself: "What problem does this solve that they already care about?" Lead with their problem, not your solution.
Community & Belonging
You feel like you don't fit in anywhere. Networking feels performative and draining. You're tired of code-switching just to connect, and wonder if there's a place where you can just be yourself.
Watch for people who smile, nod, or make eye contact — they're signaling openness. Mirror it back. That small exchange is often all it takes to start a real conversation.
Growth & Leadership
You're ready to do more — whether that's leading a team, running a company, or sharing your ideas to a bigger audience. You want to grow without faking a personality that isn't yours.
Think of a peer or mentor who's navigated a similar transition. Send them a short note. The conversations that reshape your leadership often start with a simple 'I'd love to pick your brain.'
Ready to find your leverage point?
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